Victimize This:

Statements:
1) It is incredibly obnoxious when you are angry at someone and they turn themselves into the victim of the situation.
-This is most annoying when they know that they are the one at fault.
-This also shows that the person is not willing to fight back, a trait which is a pet peeve of mine.
-This means the person relies on sympathy and passive aggressiveness as excuses to avoid confrontation.

2) When one brings up things in the past as reasons why you should not be mad at them, it means that they have no better reasons then the ones they use for everything.
•This is especially obvious when the person brings up their own past experiences which they have brought up countless times before.
-This means that the person uses their own "hard life" as en excuse to be the victim in any situation.
-This is astoundingly shallow of the person, meaning that they cannot come up with a better argument for their own defense then "I'm from an abusive household, take pity on me"

Points:
A) Having had a really shitty past is no excuse for stupidity, doucheyness, and/or wallowing in one's own self-pity.
B) Confrontation is a very necessary part of human interraction; don't avoid it.
-Subpoint: Don't try to solve disagreements by seeking sympathy instead of a logical resolution.
C) Whatever you did to make me angry, you did it much more recently then your shitty past happened, so don't even bring it up.

Notes:
First, I know several people who have suffered unimaginable pain in their lives, and not a single one uses that past of theirs as crutch. These people I know have moved on and look at life optimistically. So don't tell me that you can't get away from your past, because there is living proof that it's possible.

Second, when you bring up your oh-so-terrible past during a confrontation, this argument is almost always irrelevant to the situation at hand, and thus a waste of breath, so save it for your shrink.

Third, to those of you who are offended by my statements: don't tell me I do understand what it's like to go through shit like that. I do. I lost several close friends and family members at a fairly young age, I have been sexually assaulted, abused, and I used to self-harm. But when I am being confronted, I do not resort to using my past emotional scarring as an out, I defend myself with relevant statements, and I never sink so low as to beg for pity in order to avoid getting hurt. I have moved on long since, and so can you.